This past week we at the Foundations for Recovery suffered a a lost to the world of addiction. Allow me to take a moment and share with you about a young man named Jesse who we all began to love when he first walked through our doors at FFR. We had our offices at that time at the Historic Woolworth Building in downtown Medford and when Jesse walked through our doors I remember seeing this quiet yet reserved kid that definitely wanted freedom. I remember his attitude of humility as he sat there with his Father Wayne who had brought him into seeing me. We had a common friend, my pastor and their neighbor and it was Pastor Scott that gave them an FFR flyer. Although at first Jesse was someone guarded with his answers regarding his addiction as we continued to converse I began to see the hardness of his shell soften. We immediately provided him a coach (Ken) who began to work with him weekly on his recovery program. It was his hard work and dedication even after several setbacks that we so inspiring. Even though there were times of not complete honesty Jesse continue to work at his program and as we say often in the recovery community, “progress not perfection” seem to fit him. But as he continued to grow in his program a confidence seem to return and he became a voice of FFR even speaking at our 2014 Drive Out Recovery Festival in Central Point Oregon and at our Learn 2 HOPE Against Addiction Workshop at Bobbio’s Pizza in Medford. It voice seem to always echo HOPE and that he seem happy and free.
Unfortunately this addiction/compulsive behavior must continue to be work and that life is all about choices and as we all know, “old playgrounds, old friends, and old environment equals old behaviors.” As time separated between us we began to see less and less of Jesse and soon I began to see a difference. However, I always knew that Jesse would never leave his faith. Although he didn’t attend church a lot I knew he had such a love for God. The Bible says in Romans 8:38-39; “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
That’s why I can say in my heart that although Jesse is no longer with us I am trusting a loving Father that now holds our dear friend.
With that being said allow me to speak briefly to those who may be reading this and find themselves still struggling in the grip or shadows of addiction. Here is my suggestion to you: I am a firm believer in the 12 steps (AA, NA & CR) but for me in my own recovery program, the key to obsession to use being lifted was Step #3 – “Made the decision to turn our WILL and our LIVES over the care of God as we understood Him”.
For me, My Higher Power is Jesus Christ and until I was willing to turn my LIFE and my WILL completely over to HIM, I would continue to relapse and struggle to the point of frustration which often times made me want just give up. However, until I could embrace (surrendered, willingness) complete dependence on my Lord and view this step not as a step of weakness but of strength, I could not achieve my desire of living a life clean and sober. So, I did, I surrendered, and with that something miraculous happened in my life. The thoughts of wanting a drink seem to dimnished and I began to achieve success in my recovery program. It started to become easier for me.
The Big Book says on Page 64 “When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically.”
My BIGGER BIGGER BOOKS says in Matthew 11:28 “Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”
Addiction is not the cause but a symptom of unrest in your life. ALLOW ME TO NOW SHOUT THIS…
“YOUR ADDICTION BEHAVIOR IS NOT THE CAUSE BUT A SYMPTOM OF A “UNREST” IN YOUR LIFE”
So PLEASE, when a friend of the program reaches out to you and ask you “how your doing?” Don’t hide in the GUILT, SHAME or EMBARRASSMENT of your relapse, simply know this, we have all been there and we have all had setbacks. There is HOPE and you can change, if you want.
IT’S TIME TO TURN YOUR SETBACKS INTO COMEBACKS!
If you want to change please call us at the Foundations for Recovery 541-245-HOPE as we have an amazing staff of passionate men and women that today live a successful life of sobriety that are waiting to give that to you. There is HOPE!